seeking support, not opinions

A decision is a terrible thing to waste.

So when you’ve made an important one, be careful who you share it with.

Without any intention of causing you to break into a cold, mildly irritated sweat, he or she may offer their opinion.

When all you really want (and need) is support.

If you ask my wife about this, she’ll laugh and tell you that I am possibly the worst at this. I’m the one who gives a hot take instead of reading the room and saying “Well, what are you waiting for? Get going.” Or “How can I help?”

Good intentions make me say things like “That’s cool. Have you thought about making it pink?”

With the exception of ​Emma Stratton​, nobody should get away with suggesting you “make it punchier.”

You made a decision. Act. Tell them about it later when you won’t be tempted to second guess it.

“Decisions aren’t about being right; they’re about being done. Make one, move on, and fix it if you have to.” – Bill Belichick*

Peter

PS: of course this is a note to self. I’m hopeful I’m not alone in being both the person who asks one too many people to weigh in and the one who does, when a decision is done and it’s time to go do the thing.

PPS: *Fake news. Bill never said it, but ChatGPT can be convincing eh?